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RHOA Real Housewives Professional Envy

Kandi Burruss and NeNe Leakes stars of reality tv show Real Housewives of Atlanta

Kandi Burruss and NeNe Leakes, castmates and celebrity stars of Real Housewives of Atlanta Bravo reality tv series seem to be experiencing bouts of professional envy. It is hard to find out who is the protagonist and who is the antagonist? The lack of a clear-cut instigator or pacifist mirrors life.

The Real Housewives of Atlanta Professional Envy

The two stars of the Real Housewives of Atlanta are just like every day people. We all must maintain our professional competitiveness in a cut-throat world to keep our quality of life in tact. Kandi Burruss has ruminated that because she has a new spin off, her cast mates (NeNe Leakes) of Real Housewives of Atlanta and NeNe Leakes’ fans are envious of her professional success. She was reported as asking those who have cast shade on her success, “What did I do to you?”

Kandi fretted that other celebrity housewives and stars of the Real Housewives Bravo reality tv series went on to individual stardom like Kim Zolciak and Porsha Williams. Why not she? Kandi Burruss further explained that she pitched several spin off television show ideas to the producers. Why didn’t her naysayers do the same?

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Researchers at the Harvard Business Review published an article sharing that professional envy and jealousy is not new. In fact, these feelings are universally felt when a colleague attains something for which you had wished. While these negative emotions are universal; we are consumed with guilt and try to suppress them once they rise to the surface. Unfortunately, as we attempt to bury emotions of envy and jealousy, they can resurface with greater strength causing more harm than had we been true to ourselves and owned up to our negative feelings.

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A few real housewives tips, suggestions and recommendations for regular housewives as well as celebrity stars of the Real Housewives Bravo television series follow.

  • Recognize your negative thoughts and behaviors;
  • Examine exactly what act or behavior triggers your envy (self confidence, aggression, thoughtfulness, passion);
  • Seek to develop those attributes and characteristics within your self;
  • Refocus your energies on the antidote of jealousy ( admiration) and envy (goodwill);
  • Become more open to others;
  • Establish a closer relationship with your foe and seek to emulate her style or technique in the areas for which you have envied;
  • Accept and adapt to change more readily than in the past;
  • Learn from your shortcomings and or seek to develop your weakness;
  • Take the opportunity to discover the job, projects and/or activities that bring you fulfillment;
  • Affirm your positive qualities daily;
  • Switch jobs, careers, or industries for which you are better suited, if necessary.

Eventually NeNe Leakes and Kandi Burruss will resolve their differences keeping their relative celebrity star status in tact. Focus on yourself. Be your own best advocate.

And remember, as Kandi Burruss has said of her Real Housewives of Atlanta peers and colleagues, “a lot of them don’t pitch shows. A lot of them think, β€˜I’m so great that Bravo should just throw a show in my lap.’ That is not what I do,” she said. β€œMe and my husband, we come up with these ideas, and we pitch them. Sometimes, the network is for it; sometimes they aren’t. Everything we do does not get picked up.”

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Real Housewives Atlanta share husband

The Real Housewives of Atlanta franchise has taught housewives everywhere, “Never share or attempt to share a husband of a bestie. Not even an ex-husband. Porsha Williams, one of the most popular stars of the Real Housewives Bravo franchise feuded with Kenya Moore, alleging that Kenya slept with her ex-husband Kordell Stewart.

No offense to Kordell, but most ladies know that men will be men, I mean true dogs when it comes to lust and love. And most women, celebrity real housewives included know that once you try to date the husband, ex, or boyfriend of a friend; you are labeled a bad girl forever! Kenya Moore has been perceived by many who follow the Real Housewives of Atlanta reality tv series as an evil villain.

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Besties, bestfriends, frenemies the world over know that boyfriends, current husbands, ex-husbands and even one night stands and flings of girls within your inner circle are generally offlimits.

Even relationship experts who dish out advice to college students say the matter can be very tricky. It all depends upon who left whom in the relationship. Was it your bestie who broke up with her partner (leaving the door open for you to pursue a relationship). Or, was it her boyfriend who ditched her leaving your bestie’s heart broken? Maybe your friend, frenemy still yearns for a reconciliation.

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Do you want to escape the fate of Kenya Moore, cast member of the Real Housewives of Atlanta? Do you want to dodge and avoid the bad girl villain role? Here are some real housewives tips for you. Relationship counselors would suggest that there are several factors to consider when determining whether your friend’s ex is on or off limits.

  • How long ago did the break-up happen? This may be commonsensical, but you can’t imagine how many lovelorn girls still carry a torch for the boyfriend that got away. If it has only been a week or two, bide your time and try to wait it out. If it has been a year or two, you could tread, but still tread lightly.
  • How long did the relationship last? If they were together for just a few weeks or months, then there may not have been enough time to establish a long-lasting bond. However, if they were childhood friends, a campus couple, and adult lovers, no matter how much you like this guy; your friend’s bond with him consists of a storehouse of memories that may be hard to break and/or withstand.
  • If it was your friend who did the ‘breaking up’, then the door is wide open. Go ahead run through it, as it is considered more socially acceptable you to date your bestie’s old flame. They do suggest, however, that you should (in all fairness) casually mention her ex and gently ask if she thinks it is a good idea.
  • If your friend is already in a new relationship, go ahead girl. Take a shot at her old man. No one could be the wiser.
  • If it was your friend who got dumped instead of being the dumper, then a huge can of worms is introduced. Your bestie may experience tendencies bordering on paranoia. She may falsely accuse you of being the source of their break-up. You may lose your friend altogether, as she might begin to internalize her rejection with your success. Finally, at every turn, she might attempt to surreptitiously undermine your relationship with your ex. So in the end you may lose a bestie and a boyfriend. Think twice. Who needs the trouble?

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Looking back to Porsha Williams and Kenya Moore, cast mates of the Real Housewives of Atlanta Bravo reality tv series. Their relationship did not survive the sharing of an ex-husband. Fans of the Real Housewives of Atlanta noticed that the only time the two got along was when they birthed their daughters. In the end, their conflict from the feuding about Porsha’s husband may last longer than any one girl’s relationship with Kordell Stewart.